This blog post was contributed by Marisa Louie Lee.
I was making some exciting strides in my genealogy research
this year until mid-March, when my daughter’s preschool closed and landed her at home
with her younger sister and me. We’ve since filled our days with class Zoom
meetings, sidewalk chalk, watching lettuce grow in the backyard, crafting with
toilet paper tubes, and lots of yoga on YouTube… and lately, a few family
history projects. While visiting research rooms or meeting up with other
researchers is in the distant future, I can still work on something just as
important as piecing together the past: fostering a love for family history and
their cultural heritage in my kids.
For children, especially those under the age of 5, identity
is tied to family. Understanding family traditions and being able to share
family narratives strengthens one’s pride in family, building confidence and
self-esteem. With this foundation, children can better understand differences among
their peers and build relationships with others. Here are some ways you can
introduce family history to young children while sheltering in place.
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| Making Chinese turnip cake at home |
Cooking Family
Recipes: The food of Shelter in Place is definitely comfort food – and
what’s more comforting than what your family has made for generations? Share
the stories that go along with the recipes. Was there a special plate that your
grandmother used to serve the cake? Was this casserole a special food for
holidays or birthdays? If you don’t have a family recipe for something you
enjoyed as a child, find one online and refine it until it feels and tastes
right. We made my mother-in-law’s favorite
Chinese turnip cake
(
lo bak go) for the first time last
month. An aunt has also been perfecting her Hong Kong-style egg custard tart (
daan tat) recipe, and our kids have
happily eaten all of the trial tarts left on our doorstep.
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| Thumbs up for homemade custard tarts! |
Family Photo Sharing
on Zoom: On Mother’s Day, our extended family gathered on Zoom. We devoted
part of our meeting to sharing and talking about family pictures. My daughter
loves seeing photos of adults as children, so she was enthralled by a photo
from her great-great-grandmother’s birthday party in the 1960s. Best of all,
the Zoom meeting was recorded so we are able to go back and listen to
everyone’s reminiscences. This would be an excellent activity for a family
member who’d like to offer
some
virtual babysitting to busy parents.
Cemetery Visits:
Instead of taking a walk at a local park, why not visit a local cemetery? This
would have to be carefully planned and obviously may not be appropriate for
every child. Our children are very comfortable at cemeteries because we visit
twice yearly for
Chinese
grave cleaning days in the spring and fall. Visit the grave of an ancestor
and share a story, or find a grave and discover ways to find out more about
that individual and the time period in which they lived. My daughter talks
about time and history comparatively to people and things she is familiar with:
was this person alive when her parents or grandparents were born? Which famous
Disney movies – like
Snow White
(1937) or
Cinderella (1950) – were around
then? Were there cars or did people ride horses?
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| Visiting Hoy Sun Cemetery in Colma |
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| Honoring family on Memorial Day |
COVID-19 Time
Capsule: Document the history happening now. What is it like sheltering in
place with your family? How are you celebrating holidays and special occasions?
What are your favorite books, movies, and pastimes right now? This COVID-19
time capsule by
LONG Creations
is designed for young children to complete and color with some adult
assistance.
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| Some books from our family library |
Picture Books on
Family History: Read books on family history, particularly any that relate
to your child’s culture and ancestors. My daughter will eventually learn more
fully about the Chinese Exclusion Act and Chinese communities in the Sacramento
Delta, but for now we can talk about immigrant journeys and the meanings of our
names. Some recent fantastic picture books with a thread about family history
and heritage include
Islandborn by Junot
Díaz and
Alma and How She Got Her Name
by Juana Martinez-Neal. You can also find books specifically about family trees
and genealogical research, such as
My
Family Tree and Me by Dušan Petričić. If you don’t mind using a tablet or
electronic device to read with your child, these may be available as e-books
from your local public library. I’ve developed
a
reading list in my San Francisco Public Library account with these and
other titles.
Many thanks to friends and colleagues in genealogy and parenthood
Linda Harms Okazaki, Asia Yee Mountz, and Petra Fraties for their input and
contributions to this blog post.
This
article published on the Your DNA Guide blog further discusses family
narratives and building resilience in children.
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